DISCIPLINE & LOYALTY:
A company manager once asked me how come Martial Arts has so much discipline. He experienced betrayal, disloyalty, malcontent employees and low self-esteem from his workers. He had incentive programs, promotions, pay raises, awards, special incentives and such; yet when an employee did not get promoted due to laziness, allowing injuries to slow them down, stop working towards a management goal; that the disgruntled employee left saying nasty things, blaming the company and blaming him.
I informed this manager that this is the same in any church, company, school, organization. It was not just his company. It even happens in a discipline organization such as a karate school. I told him that people think that if they show up to work early for a year or two, that they deserve a promotion based on that fact. Does not matter to the disgruntled employee or student that they do not deserve the promotion, or that they do not measure up to the ethical standards of the company.
When some people feel that they deserve a promotion or pay raise; they become fixated on that concept and everything else does not matter. They become bitter & resentful, they accuse the school, manager, instructor or organization of wrong doing or nick picking things for their failures. Employees & students in this "why me Lord" mental fixation or malfunction; will always blame others for their mistakes, shortcomings, failures and the fact the they did not have loyalty, or discipline, that they did not ever understand what sacrifice, fortitude and dedication was all about. These disgruntled individuals lose credibility, integrity, honestly and they lie to themselves and others.
They are the same persons that have gone though life with very few, if any successes, accomplishments or positive things. They are the so called experts. They never do anything wrong. Once a quitter, always a quitter. You can not change schools, organizations, companies and think that the same malfunctions that they were having with the original company will go away. As they were the problem, they were the failure.
Whatever a person does in life, never burn your bridge, never backstab, never commit betrayal, disloyalty or slam the company you have been with for several years. No one is going to believe you, it makes you look like a fool.
Many humans are afraid to admit when they make a mistake or are wrong.
As I told the Manager, employees come and employees or students go; as long as a majority are happy and understand the rules and regulations; that one person does not get it, does not matter and is not one to lose sleep over. I know that it does not bother me. I work towards those who are willing to make the sacrifices. Leave the losers of society in the dust. They will always blame others for their mistakes and short comings & failures in life. It makes them feel better. So let them. BUT, it will bother them for the rest of their lives, they will always deep down inside know; that they screwed up, that they were a failure. Hopefully they will learn something from this.
As I told the company manager, don't worry about that one person; thank God, they are few and far between.
They are the one's that never get the big picture. They are the one's, who do not learn from life. Our society in the 21st Century is very bitter, cynical, cocky, arrogant, depressed and unmotivated group of humans I have ever seen in the last 55 years. Help the one that wants to be helped. Anyone can complain and blame others, and most fools do.
Soke Steve Bennest
